Inhale your weaknesses, exhale your strengths. I have many weaknesses and I’m sure my husband can attest to this, however, my biggest strength is being a mother. I was meant to be a mother. I believe that God has granted me motherhood because I was supposed to be a mother. I am many other things, but being a mother has defined me.
Being a mother tests you in ways you could never imagine. Losing patience, learning, letting go…the fact that you really just want to get a pedicure and go to the damn bathroom without your kids on your boob or at your feet, but you have to keep it together for work and the kids. No time to fall apart. Or that argument with your husband about the stupid alarm that keeps going off for over 24 hours, but we are both too stubborn to do anything about it since we are both too busy, oh yeah that’s right. Balance. How the hell do people do it? Be a good parent. Be a good wife. Give 100% at your job. Go to the doctor. Take a shower. Eat. Sleep (WTF is that?!). Take your vitamins. Be healthy. Go running. Watch junk TV. Get gas. Go grocery shopping. Budget. Text your friends back. Stalk facebook. Read. I said it in my last post. Yes, we get it. Life is freakin crazy so the YOU time is usually buried somewhere deep in that to do list. Being a mother is the most selfless job on the planet. We often lose our identity, especially early on.
One thing I’ve learned in the past 5 or so years is to be in the moment. Yeah, life is crazy and you will always have a big to do list, but sit down and just be. Be with your kids. Sit on the floor, put the phone away, build some legos, and breathe in that moment. Schedule time for you. Run. Take a bath. Read a book. Recharge. The end.
Ugh totally easier said than done. This is also another huge stressor in our marriage. More to come on that topic later.
Exhale and soften into it all. Be in the moment. Be present. I’m guilty of it. I am constantly chasing the clutter of everyday life, the never ending laundry list of things to do. Stop running circles around chores and cut out time to dream, create, relax, and refresh. Motherhood is sacred and finding the space for you and them can often overlap and become cumbersome.
Just breathe into all of your imperfections and the process of life and love. Inhale the beautiful mess and exhale the everyday chaos. Just breathe mama, YOU got this.